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Waleed J. Iskandar

~ Grief ~


  • Grief is a process, not a state.
  • The pain of grief is the price we pay for love
  • Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith.
  • Grief doesn't end at the funeral, grief doesn't end at the cemetery either.
  • Grief isn't something you get over quickly (or ever).
  • Grief is not an illness that medicine or time heals in conventional ways.
  • Grief can't be "fixed" away. It can however be ignored or denied for a time. Yet it is still there buried within you and may return at a later time.
  • Grief may ask of you to be more tolerant of people's actions and lack of action towards you.
  • There is no "normal" way to grieve.
  • There is no recipe for successful grieving.


My Grief
September, 11, 2002

     Today is the first Anniversary of the loss of our son Waleed.

     Deep inside me, I feel like it has happened yesterday. But, my face does not show my true feelings. What shows is just a masquerade. What is behind the face is my true feelings. I feel his presence and hear his voice in my mind and in my heart. The mention of my son's name may bring tears to my eyes. But, it also brings music to my ears. So, let me hear the beautiful music of his name. It will sooth my broken heart.

     One might think that things are alright with me. One might think that time has heeled the wound. But it is the mask that he is seeing. Beneath the mask lies the real feeling, the feeling of love that my heart holds for my lost son.

     May be you notice on my face that there is an acceptance of the fact. I found out that acceptance is the only thing that is going to save my being, to liberate me from the self built wall. Acceptance is the key to being a part of the society around me. Acceptance is my salvation. Acceptance will get me back on track with life. Thus, I started accepting my destiny. I can't go on refusing what has happened. I can't change what has happened. But I can pray that one day I will leave this material Earth and I will meet with my son in the other eternal life.

I pray to the Almighty to rest his soul in peace.

I pray for a World without evil, pain and suffering.

 What did they write about grief ... 


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